There was a time not to long ago that I remember going somewhere like a doctor’s office with my parents and being asked to wait patiently. Waiting seemed to be something I did a lot of as a child. It seemed everywhere we went we would spend a certain amount of time waiting. Today, however, waiting seems to be a lost concept.
When I go to the doctor’s office today everyone is on a cell phone playing games, answering email, or watching a video. No one is just ‘waiting’ like I did when I was a kid. I see this at restaurants, hospitals, parks (as children play), and just about every other place I go.
Waiting has become a curse word. People cringe when they hear it.
Learning to wait is an exercise. It takes practice. Unfortunately the world around us very rarely allows for this discipline to take place. In fact, one teenager I was speaking to summed it up perfectly when he said ‘I never wait.’
Our lack of waiting is having an impact.
Most of this is due too the fact that a growing number of teens own smart phones. In fact, owning a smart phone has become a rite of passage (even more important than getting a drivers license, as is evident from a recent NPR article). A smart phone provides 24/7 access to a number of activities meaning a teen never has to wait to be entertained.
We also see this in how we watch TV. An entire season of some of the more popular shows like Empire, Better Call Saul, and The Walking Dead are all between 10-12 episodes that show over a 3-month period. Just a few years ago an entire season would span over 6-8 months and include close to 25 episodes. Today’s audiences are unable to sit and wait for the plot to develop, which is why seasons are shortened so we can get to the end quicker. We can’t wait for it! In fact, a whole new term for watching shows has been developed…it’s called binge watching.
Last year Hollywood released a movie called Boyhood that took over 12 years to film. Every actor was seen through three distinct time periods in a young boys life. The patience and the commitment it took from the actors, the producers, and the director to make this movie is incredible. It gives me hope.
Waiting needs to be…..
Wait for it…
…..taught and modeled. It needs to be a part of our every day vernacular. It needs to be something seen on TV and in the movies. Not in the plot but in how that plot develops over an entire season. It needs to be seen in how we spend our downtime.
There are physical reasons for waiting. It teaches our bodies to sit and be still. To learn how to engage the world around us without always having to be entertained
There are emotional reasons for waiting. When we don’t display every life detail on social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, and Vine we leave opportunity for self-discovery.
There are relational reasons for waiting. We hurt in isolation but heal in community. This doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time.
We need to relearn this idea of “waiting” and begin the process of removing the stigma that has made it so akin to a curse word in our vernacular.